Have you ever been in a room full of people, and before you got to this room your mood and energy was at an all time high then immediately after walking into the room, it suddenly took a hard left & you instantly became tired and sad, and low out of no where? You may be an empath. Everybody tends to flock to you because you have this healing aura. But if you do not establish those boundaries then you will always be drained and extremely exhausted. It can be very hard to go on with your everyday life if you do not put some boundaries in your life. You will try to avoid certain people, certain conversations because you already know how it will go if and when you do reach out to that person. I really don’t like having to cut people out of my life more than I have to but my mental well-being comes first. I can’t pour from an empty glass, I can’t be the mother, lover, nurturer if I’m depleted after every interaction I have with some people. You can not be negative around me and expect me to, to continue to wanna talk to you daily. Im just gonna tell you to take that shit elsewhere.
If you are a friend who has an empath as a friend. Please just be mindful not to just un load all of your issues onto them. Make sure that they are in a good head space to receive it. Because they are also people and they tend to go through things on a day to day basis and just because they don’t come to you like you do them does not mean they aren’t dealing with anything. Some people just don’t open up about the issues they face daily because that’s just not who they are as a person. Yeah y’all are friends and yes they can come to you about anything but certain people just aren’t that way and its hard for them to be able to open up. Just because you’re a open book and can go to friends and open up as easy as you can, don’t fault or be mad at them for not being the same way. Its just who they are. But in due time maybe it will change for them because everybody changes at different times in their life.
Self care is very important, but it helps out an empath much more than you will realize. It’s funny because it’s like when I practice self care on myself, it feels like a weight is being released, and like I can finally breathe again. Facial mask, under eye mask, and a good face moisturizer and some good sleep will help out tremendously. What may work for me, may not work for you. So make sure you try different things to see which one actually helps soothe you the best. Until next time my lovelies. Take care..
Often times in life we go through hurt. But most of the time we never do anything to actually let that hurt go. It’s always in the back of your mind, just sitting there as you go on about your day to day life. It’s weird because you claim to be over it but there’s evidence that you are not over it. You sit on social media and make post after post subbing your ex or the guy who hurt you to begin with.
While it’s easy to say “Fuck him, he aint shit, I’m glad I MOVED ON” it’s not always that easy. It does take time. & plenty of it. But in the mean time, start to focus on you, and whatever dream you may have. You can not allow a man to ever get to you and to bring you out of character because trust me he isn’t worth it. Because while you sitting home on social media being “petty” he most likely out with his next boo.
There is really no set time on how long it takes to heal. But you have got to heal in order for God to bless you with the man he sees fit for you. You can’t be bitter and mad and think God will send you the husband you’ve always dreamed about, because 9 times out of 10 with you being hurt and damaged you just gonna push him away. Focus on you, your brand, your education, your job whatever you have to do to take the focus off of that man. Level up. Be the woman you know you can be.
Simple things that can help in the process, writing, traveling, being around the people who actually love and adore you. Drinking wine with ya best friends because my best friends always come thru when I need them & vice versa. Dinner and movies always help too. Take yourself out on a date and enjoy being by yourself. Get back to being happy for yourself. It’s not something will happen over night. Just like anything else in life, it takes time. So put on your lounging clothes and let it go & heal so you can become the woman you’ve always envisioned yourself to be.
Nobody likes to be hurt. But in order to grow you have to let that hurt go. Use the hurt to fuel you. To push you to becoming a better person all the way around.