Outgrowing Individuals Is Okay.

In life we normally have friends for 3 reason. Friends for a reason, friends for a season, and friends for a lifetime. Now you know you had friends in high school who said y’all was BBFL. Still friends with that person? Maybe not and that’s okay. In life we go through changes and during them changes you lose friends in the process, sometimes. I had 2 best friends in high school and after I graduated I did lose one after I left for the Army. Even though it hurt, I was okay with it. I still am friends with one of my best friends and to this day we are more like sisters than anything. We have our sister spats but we always bounce back and always will. We grown now so we really don’t have those spats anymore. She’s the friend for a lifetime

Now once I left my hometown for the Army in July 2011, I meant another lifetime friend. She is older but she’s from Wilson. Even though we don’t talk everyday I do know that’s a friend for a lifetime only because when we first met we instantly clicked. It was a scary experience for me because it was my first time away from home fresh out of high school and on my own. I was ready to leave the first day I got there because I didn’t think I could do it. But seeing how well the other females were handling it made it seem like I was overreacting. I told my momma to come get me and I was gonna just go to school But I’m actually glad I stayed and thugged it out. Because of this I met a lot of other lifetime friends while serving in the Army, also met some reasons and seasons. God places people in your life for a reason.

There are a couple of people who I met in the Army whom I am no longer close to, for various reasons. But even though at the time I thought they would be lifelong friends some of them actually taught me a lot during the season where we were friends or associates because they don’t even deserve the title friend to be honest. During my time in the Army, I became a mother, a single mother at that. I learned a lot, went through a lot. I don’t take anything for granted because it solely made me the woman I am today & the woman I am destined to be.

All I want to say is just be cautious of whom you call a friend because everybody isn’t for you. Some people only befriend you because they see that you are doing something great with your life and want to compete with you. A person who goes out and buys something you got, or go do something you did just because they wanted to do it as well, isn’t really a friend but an enemy in disguise. Just be prepared for the bullshit that follows. I only speak on what I know. But don’t feel bad for losing people as you grow. Whats meant to be will always find its way. Trust the process.

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