Have you ever been in a room full of people, and before you got to this room your mood and energy was at an all time high then immediately after walking into the room, it suddenly took a hard left & you instantly became tired and sad, and low out of no where? You may be an empath. Everybody tends to flock to you because you have this healing aura. But if you do not establish those boundaries then you will always be drained and extremely exhausted. It can be very hard to go on with your everyday life if you do not put some boundaries in your life. You will try to avoid certain people, certain conversations because you already know how it will go if and when you do reach out to that person. I really don’t like having to cut people out of my life more than I have to but my mental well-being comes first. I can’t pour from an empty glass, I can’t be the mother, lover, nurturer if I’m depleted after every interaction I have with some people. You can not be negative around me and expect me to, to continue to wanna talk to you daily. Im just gonna tell you to take that shit elsewhere.
If you are a friend who has an empath as a friend. Please just be mindful not to just un load all of your issues onto them. Make sure that they are in a good head space to receive it. Because they are also people and they tend to go through things on a day to day basis and just because they don’t come to you like you do them does not mean they aren’t dealing with anything. Some people just don’t open up about the issues they face daily because that’s just not who they are as a person. Yeah y’all are friends and yes they can come to you about anything but certain people just aren’t that way and its hard for them to be able to open up. Just because you’re a open book and can go to friends and open up as easy as you can, don’t fault or be mad at them for not being the same way. Its just who they are. But in due time maybe it will change for them because everybody changes at different times in their life.
Self care is very important, but it helps out an empath much more than you will realize. It’s funny because it’s like when I practice self care on myself, it feels like a weight is being released, and like I can finally breathe again. Facial mask, under eye mask, and a good face moisturizer and some good sleep will help out tremendously. What may work for me, may not work for you. So make sure you try different things to see which one actually helps soothe you the best. Until next time my lovelies. Take care..